POSSESSIVENESS - The pleasant darkness

Possessiveness,the word itself says a lot, being possessive for someone like stalking someone and getting angry about their own decisions and wanting them to obey you is called possessiveness.

When we start our conversation with someone at the first time, we can't know whether what will happen next and how the person really is. But, after giving them enough time and when the person shows their real behaviour in front of you, you can see how the person reacts on the things you do and how they take you in their normal everyday life.

In most cases, the person will ask you some small things like mostly in a conversation, the person asks about whom you talk, how you know them or even ask you to block other friends because of their jealousy (can be taken as their possessiveness) and when you obey them, they'll start to ask your passwords and the sweet talks turns into evil and irritating behaviour.

The next step in most cases is the person will start getting angry on silly things even if you talk with someone else of opposite gender, they start fighting and abusing without knowing what's right and wrong.

We can see around us, mostly the parents and siblings are possessive about us but when we get possessed by an another person, we end up with just irritation and hurtful pain.

Some people may love it that someone is possessive about them and someone really thinks that you belongs to them but sometimes it's not enough to keeping silence and letting them rule on you. Mostly, happy relationships ends because of this reason nowadays, when a person show possessiveness for you, a feeling of  being not trusted by partner is generated automatically which destroys the understanding with the partner.

If you don't want someone to rule on you, you must not take it easy at the starting of conversation, you must raise a voice against them and make them realise the importance of individual's privacy. You must ask them to trust you if they really know you and have believe in you, they must not abuse or fight with you, or of they don't, it's obvious that deeply you know what you are doing and what you want to do.
Sometimes people love it, but showing possessiveness doesn't mean that you care for them. Yes it's true that love have possessiveness but when it turns into over possessiveness it automatically creates a feeling of not being loved or trusted and eventually it feels like we got stuck in an unseen jail where we can't do anything we want and we have to do everything according to our partner without mutual understanding.
If you're the one who shows a lot possessiveness, you must note that this will not make them to fall more for you but this may destroy their feelings and hurt them more.